At some point in everyones life they have been told no. The message sent is just as important as the message received and it depends, not only on the word, but the tone of voice as well as the body language. Its a tiny word that can make us stop and wonder what it meant. I would think it only had one meaning but we tend to try and see beyond the word. Often and explanation is required in order for the point to get across when really, the word speaks for itself. Question: "Did you watch Criminal Minds last night?" Answer: "No" Question: "Do you want to want to go out for dinner?" Answer: "No." You would think that would be enough but we seem to need an explanation as to why we just answered no. For some reason this word cannot stand alone eventhough it is a powerful word.
If someone were to come to you and ask you if you would be willing to help with a project. Suppose you yelled NO! at that person. I know it wouldnt get the same response if you answered "no?". More than likely the message would be loud and clear if you barked at someone and that person may never approach you again; they might even Some see it as a finite answer and respect your decision whereas others see it as an opportunity to do things differently so they can eventually change your mind because they see the word 'no' as "negotiations are now open", and "I hear what you say but what I say matters more". If you stand your ground and dont allow that person to disregard your answer you run the risk of them being offended (which really is now their problem and not yours) or they may try methods that you are unaware of just so they can get their own way. When I am faced with someone who refuses to hear me say no, I always wonder if it was my fault that they didnt hear me. Did I not say it clear enough? Should I have added the complimentary explanation? Do I seem like I dont know how to make this decision for myself? Was my voice just not loud enough? Is the post explaination complimentory or manditory? I suppose I will never know,
That tiny word NO is not such a tiny word. We have always been encouraged to "Not take NO for an answer" and then we were taught that "NO means NO" Im so confused.
~love and light~
Shady
If someone were to come to you and ask you if you would be willing to help with a project. Suppose you yelled NO! at that person. I know it wouldnt get the same response if you answered "no?". More than likely the message would be loud and clear if you barked at someone and that person may never approach you again; they might even Some see it as a finite answer and respect your decision whereas others see it as an opportunity to do things differently so they can eventually change your mind because they see the word 'no' as "negotiations are now open", and "I hear what you say but what I say matters more". If you stand your ground and dont allow that person to disregard your answer you run the risk of them being offended (which really is now their problem and not yours) or they may try methods that you are unaware of just so they can get their own way. When I am faced with someone who refuses to hear me say no, I always wonder if it was my fault that they didnt hear me. Did I not say it clear enough? Should I have added the complimentary explanation? Do I seem like I dont know how to make this decision for myself? Was my voice just not loud enough? Is the post explaination complimentory or manditory? I suppose I will never know,
That tiny word NO is not such a tiny word. We have always been encouraged to "Not take NO for an answer" and then we were taught that "NO means NO" Im so confused.
~love and light~
Shady